Does your spouse have to tell you it’s time to lose weight?


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ALBANY, NY (NEWS10) – Today’s 98.3 TRY social dilemma came from Connie. She is angry with her husband, but he thinks he is right. She asks for our opinion. Here is his email:

Hi Jaime. My husband and I love to listen to your show on the way to work every morning, especially The Dilemma. We have one of ours. I recently got really mad at my husband for saying something that I thought was incredibly hurtful. He thinks it was incredibly affectionate. I have a weight problem. It’s not like I don’t know. I look at myself in the mirror everyday and try to lose weight. Slowly but surely, I am losing weight, but I also have slippages where I regain a little. My husband keeps talking about my weight problem. He says he does it to support me, but all I think and feel when he does is it’s the only thing he sees in me. He says he does it for love, and he wants me to know that he is supporting me, but even if I tell him that’s not how I take it, he does it anyway. He says I need to hear him so that I can keep losing weight. It is really a sensitive point between us. What do you think? Is it OK to tell a loved one that they need to lose weight? I think it’s never okay. Hope you will use this as your dilemma because we will listen to you. Thank you

~ Connie

Well I’m with Connie on this one. I don’t think you should ever lift someone’s weight. There isn’t an overweight person who doesn’t know they are overweight. But that’s just my opinion.

What do you think? Let’s help Connie and her husband. Let me know on the TRY Facebook page.