Is it wrong for married couples to sleep in separate bedrooms?

ALBANY, NY (NEWS10) – Today’s TRY 98.3 social dilemma came from Cassie. Here is his email.

Hi Jaime: I need advice on a sleeping arrangement which I fear will harm our marriage. . . Recently my husband started sleeping in the guest bedroom because I kept him up most nights and he always wakes up exhausted. To be honest, I know I toss and turn a lot and have restless leg syndrome, but I sleep separately??? And now he keeps telling me how good he feels every morning and how “I just slept 8 hours nonstop!” After nine years of marriage, it’s so wrong to watch TV curled up on the couch and then when the 11:00 news comes, we head to separate rooms! And you can imagine how that feels to me on nights when we want some privacy. It’s great then he gets up and goes to HIS room. I feel like I’m back in college sneaking guys into the dorms! We have a good relationship but I feel like we’re going to lose closeness and intimacy over time. Can you ask if other people have been in this situation and hurt their relationship… I want my husband back, not a roommate! Thanks.


Well, I’m a big fan of separate bedrooms. Of course, with my schedule, it wouldn’t be fair if my sweetheart had to wake up at 3:30 so we’ve had separate bedrooms for a long time. It works for us. And no, I don’t think you lose intimacy as long as you maintain intimacy. But that’s just me.

What do you think? Let’s help Cassie and let me know on TRY’s Facebook page.