Should the names of both spouses be on an invitation or just the name of the man and his “husband”?

ALBANY, NY (NEWS10) – Today’s 98.3 TRY social dilemma came from Carolyn and it’s about how an invitation was extended to her and her husband. Here is his email:

Hi Jaime. My husband and I were invited to a large 25th anniversary party…very upscale. However, I am really upset with the way the invitation was extended: it reached Mr. Bob Kendell (not our real last name) and invited. Now we’re friends with the couple who’ve been celebrating for 20 years or more. They only know us as a couple. We spent a lot of time together as friends… the four of us. I am so upset with the way this invitation was extended. I don’t think we should go to the party, I don’t think we should send a present. I’m not even sure we should even consider them friends. My husband says I’m exaggerating. Don’t you think that’s incredibly wrong? We will listen. Thanks a lot.


Well, I understand how Carolyn feels, but we don’t know who addressed the envelopes. Someone from the family could have helped them. I admit that my first reaction would be to feel hurt, but once I thought about it, I got over it.

What do you think? Should Carolyn refuse to go to the party and possibly end the friendship, or is this an overreaction as her husband says. Let me know on the TRY the Facebook page.