Should you be forced to swap vacations with a colleague?

ALBANY, NY (NEWS10) – Today’s 98.3 TRY social dilemma is about holidays. Here is Tanya’s email:

Hi Jaime, My company has a policy that whoever goes on vacation first gets the days off. Earlier this year, I requested a week in June for my big sister’s wedding so I could travel out of state and be there for her throughout the big day. Well, yesterday my co-worker Mae came to see me and asked me if I would be willing to change the week because she wanted the week off between her kids finishing school and leaving for camp. , and I refused. Needless to say, she’s been angry and has been trying to guilt me ​​ever since, suggesting that I don’t need a whole week for a wedding because it’s a Saturday, but I’m not moving. Now other people in the office are trying to make me feel bad, telling me I should be more considerate because Mae has kids. Honestly, I don’t see how that’s my problem. She knew when her children’s school ended and could have asked for the days months ago. Even the boss gets involved and urges me to change. So am I wrong for not wanting to adjust my plans to accommodate it? What would you do? Thanks


We have the same policy here in my office. But sometimes we help each other out and change things up if nothing specific is planned for that particular holiday. But it sounds like Tanya really wants to spend more time with her family before the wedding and I completely understand that. It’s a special moment, especially between sisters. So I agree with Tanya on this. If she wasn’t doing anything special, I’d say try to change, but she’s not.

What do you think? Let’s help Tanya and let me know about the TRY the Facebook page.