Should you say “I love you” if you’re married?

ALBANY, NY (NEWS10) – Today’s 98.3 TRY social dilemma came from Daniel, and it’s about being married for a long time. Here is his email:

Hi Jaime. Here is my story for your dilemma. My wife and I have been married for 26 years. We have a good relationship. About seven years ago, I suggested that if one of us sneezes, we don’t have to say ‘goodbye’ to each other. I said it would save us time and effort, so we both agreed that we would know that from then on it would imply that if either of us sneezed, the silence of the The other implied “God bless you”. A few weeks ago, I proposed to my wife not to say “I love you” anymore for the same reason. We know we love each other, so why do we waste time, energy and breath telling each other. My wife hated that idea. She said “I love you” was very different from “Bless you”. I do not agree. She knows I love her, I know she loves me… I don’t understand what the big deal is and what the difference is. What do you think? Isn’t “I love you” implied after 26 years of marriage. Thanks for your help Jim.


Wow, well, I couldn’t disagree with Daniel more. I think saying “I love you” is very very very important. Feeling loved and seeing it reinforced is very important, at least in my mind. But maybe I’m wrong.

What do you think? Let’s help Daniel and his wife. Let me know on TRY’s Facebook page.