Should your ex come for Thanksgiving dessert?


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ALBANY, NY (NEWS10) – Today’s 98.3 TRY social dilemma is about Thanksgiving and divorce. Here is the email I received.

Hi Jaime. I have a very serious dilemma which I hope you can use. It’s the first Thanksgiving that I’m not married. My 7 and 10 year old kids asked if their dad could come over on Thanksgiving night for dessert. I want to make my kids happy, but I’m afraid to send mixed messages if their dad, my ex-husband, was with us on Thanksgiving. Not to mention that he has a new girlfriend who is 20 years younger than him. He said she didn’t have to come. It’s just hard for me to get used to everything he has to say right now. I don’t want to give my kids false hope and feel like we need to start the healing process and move on. I just think it’s time to start some new traditions when it comes to vacations. Am I wrong to tell my kids that their dad can’t come and eat apple pie on Thanksgiving? Should I reconsider? Thank you very much Jaime

~ Claire

I know divorce is difficult, especially when your ex has already moved, but when there are children involved, all bets are off. I think it would be nice if the kids could see their dad on Thanksgiving night. It would only be for dessert so about an hour. I hope they can put their differences aside during this time. But that’s just my opinion.

What do you think? If that was you, would you allow him to come? Let’s help Claire and let me know on the TRY Facebook page.